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Another year passes by..

So, finally i managed to write this post after 11 long months! Year 2010 had been full of developments (personally and professionally) for me. Lots of learning, a shift of place and much more.. More responsibilities at work and home gives me a quite a boring feel at times.. feels like going back to childhood days many a times..

Going back to the memory lane of the year.. here are the highlights of 2010..

  • My new job..(which i used to like initially by started getting bored of it)
  • Tutu’s (My hubby) new job (He is all set for another new job early 2011)
  • New home in gurgaon (the best thing to happen to me in 2010, praying to get my own new house in 2011)
  • Endless movies and outings in gurgaon (literally aware of chappa chappa of Ambience Mall 😉 now..
  • Official travels.. some I can never forget were Lucknow and Patna.. memorable trips ever..
  • Making Good friends at work again.. (i am thankful to god for always blessing me with good friends at work)
  • Stronger and ever growing bonding with sweetheart..
  • Another, important happening was my Art of Living Course.. helped me a lot in knowing myself better, living a peaceful life.. and most important learning to be Happy always! 🙂

Won’t talk about worst things which happened in 2010 since its always good to move over the past 🙂

Looking forward to 2011! And, the best way would be to celebrate the start of the new year would be with a nice holiday! 🙂


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Here I am back..

So, here I am at my favorite place, I know I have been away for a really long time.. Actually I  have been a lot more active on Twitter all these days and blog had to take a back seat and yeah my new iphone kept me really engrossed with all those interesting games and apps 🙂

While browsing I happened to read this wonderful quote today:

“You can’t talk your way out of something you behaved your way into. You have to behave your way out of it.”

I think all of us go so much out of our way to hurt someone.. we do things we ourselves can’t imagine… and when it comes to resolving..we say let’s talk! I am not saying that talking is not important, in fact, it is the most important trait for keeping any relationship healthy… but then, there are certain goof-ups which can’t or rather shouldn’t be solved by mere talking… one must get into action!!!

While I talk about relationships, its more important to be more understanding with your partner..  all the fights, arguments, misunderstandings in a relationship gives us enough things to learn from life..

I can think of a great example for learning from things that might otherwise go unnoticed – In Hindu marriages, there is a custom wherein both the bride and the groom have a thick thread tied on their wrists during pre-wedding ceremonies and that has seven knots in it…and tight ones! Now, both of them have to open all those knots on each other’s wrist (which is a tough job)… many, actually most, people just do it… without even thinking about it.  And most of them obviously find it really tough. But both of us were probably little different, we were helping each other in doing that… despite of all the opposition from everyone. And believe me…it was almost a cakewalk for us! Now when I think about it, I could relate it to the difficulties a couple might face in life…with each other or with someone else. So there will always be many problems in life, but if you can stick by each other in the time of adversity, it can sail through anything and everything!

Right now i can mention many examples here.. but won’t make this post any more longer.. and end it here..

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Shocking Two weeks of my life…

This blog post may sound boring to some of you.. but I believe its important to know how shady is the healthcare system in our country and how the health and well being of the citizens of this country are treated by our esteemed government institution of this country..

Friday Night.. 7th August 2009.. I and my husband decided to go for a one day driving trip to Chandigarh..

Saturday Early morning.. 8th August 2009.. around 7 am.. we started from our home town Delhi to Chandigarh.. I was absolutely feeling fine and healthy.. just had a little cough.. Apart from little cough I did not had any other problem.. We had a good drive and it was me who drove all the way to Chandigarh.. so one can imagine how physically fit I may have been at that time.. On our way to Chandigarh.. we took a hault at HAVELI near Karnal.. (This is the place I believe i may have transmitted the virus of swine flu.. I happened to use the washroom of that place and there were many foreign visitors)..

When we started from Karnal.. i was almost fine.. just a little tired.. which is pretty normal after a drive of about 3-4 hours of continuous driving..

As soon as we reached Chandigarh sector 17 market.. hoping to have some good time.. I started having symptoms of flu… I got very high fever.. severe bodyache.. drowsiness etc.. we had a coffee at place in sector 17 market Chandigarh.. i thought its just the hot weather which is doing all this to me.. never ever imagined that it may be the attack of the deadly virus.. after looking at my condition, we decided not to drive back to Delhi the same day.. and decided to spend the night at Parwanoo Timber Trail Resort after confirming our booking over the phone.. we headed towards the Timber Train Resort.. we checked in at the hotel.. at that time.. i happened to have body temperature of about 104.. I took a Crocin Pain Relief tablet.. which helped me feel better for few hours but of no rescue.. my condition was not good even the next morning.. i called up my doctor Sunday morning from Parwanoo.. he suggested me to take Crocin only and meet him in the evening when I am back in Delhi.. We decided to drive back to Delhi at earliest possible.. we reached Delhi around 3 in the afternoon..

I went to see my Doctor in Max Hospital, Patparganj.. after discussing the condition with him.. he kind of assured me that its not Swine Flu.. its a viral spread all over the Northern India.. and suggested me to go for some Throat Examination.. Though he recommended me to go for Swine Flu examination.. we (me and my husband) immediately rushed to sample collection center in East Delhi.. Lal Bahadur Shastri Hospital in Mayur Vihar.. I was impressed with the staff at the center.. as soon as we entered.. we were given masks for safety sake.. and they took my throat and nasal samples after understanding my condition.. Doctor in the sample collection room was quite helpful.. she suggested me to be isolated till the reports come.. and suggested me a course of Tamiflu for 5 days.. She even said that it generally takes 3-4 days for the reports to come due to heavy rush.. if you will be a confirmed case of Swine Flu, you will get a call from the hospital.. she also said very affirmatively that if you are a negative case of Swine Flu, you will not get any intimation from us as we are already having a rush of people coming in for the test..

Yeah she was right.. I got a call from the hospital.. but not after 3-4 days of giving the sample.. I got it after 13 days…

So, what all did I  went through during those 13 days.. here it goes..

Day 3.. Monday 10th August..

I suffered from high fever.. severe bodyache.. bad cough..running nose.. my apetite was low.. i was bed ridden.. and i decided to remain isolated and not meet anyone else except 3 immediate members of my family.. my husband.. mom and dad.. (all three of them luckily have been fine since then and had no symptoms of Swine Flu and are healthy..

Day 4.. Tuesday 11th August..

I had high fever.. though the body temprature came down to 102.. but had severe bodyache and bad cough and all..

Day 5.. Wednesday 12th August..

I started recovering from fever.. temprature went down to 100 and bodyaches started improving.. but i had a really bad cough.. my husband got the reports of the throat came from Max Hospital.. which suggested a bacteria infection in my throat.. (this test report with the bacteria infection helped us believe that there are little chances of Swine Flu.. but we still decided to get the reports from the hospital the next day)

Day 6.. Thursday 13th August..

We tried calling at the phone number given to us by the doctor who took my samples in Lal Bahadur Shastri Hospital.. but they were of no use.. they had no information of my reports.. my husband infact visited the hospital and came back frustrated that no body had any information on the same..)

We then visited my Doctor with the reports of bacterial infection in my throat.. he suggested me a medication of 7 days and said it unlikely to have Swine Fly and this kind of infection together.. but we should wait for the reports..

I started on the medication he suggested and my condition started improving.. all these days.. I did not went out or met anyone outside my family members.. visiting the doctor..

Day 7-8-9.. Friday 14th August – Sunday 16th August..

Our hope got stronger of me being tested -ve for Swine Flu.. as there were no information from the Hospital and I started recovering at a good pace.. i was in a very good condition in those 3 days.. a friend from Bangalore visited me on Saturday.. we even went out for a coffee in a near by shopping mall..

On Sunday.. we even went to watch a movie “Kaminey” in Spice Mall Noida.. Believe me I had no symptoms of viral in those 3 days and i was almost in perfect shape..

Day 10.. Monday 17th August..

I joined my work.. with little low on energy.. but i managed to spend the whole day at work without any problem.. Though i was little tired by the end of day.. it happened to be a OK day for me..

Day 11-12-13-14.. Tuesday 18th August – Friday 21st August..

It had been a good and comfortable week for me at work.. all was well.. though i had been low on energy.. during the week i happened to complete the medication suggested by my doctor for the throat infection..  and i had been feeling good by the end of Friday and meeting my family over the dinner.. i was quite excited for the weekend..

Day 15.. Saturday 22nd August..

I had a lazy start to my weekend.. I had been feeling little tired since morning.. the reason i can think of this tiredness is that m still not physically fit.. having a good day @ home.. after cooking 3 good meals, going to the nearby market.. having a good sleep of 2 hours.. i was feeling pretty good..

At 9 pm, I was in the Kitchen.. when my phone rang.. and that phone call brought a news of shock to me.. the guy said I am calling from Lal Bahadur Shastri Hospital.. you were tested for Swine Flu on 9th August and your reports just came and you have been confirmed as a Postive Case for Swine Flu… After listening to him.. I didn’t knew what to say to him.. he asked me if I have any symptoms till now.. i told me that I don’t have any sypmtoms.. just a very little cough.. and lot of weakness.. he asked if anyone around me has any symptoms.. i told him that there are no cases.. he asked me to visit the doctor in the Hospital and take the counselling..

After that call, my brain started working whom all I met during last 2 weeks and if anyone has any symptoms.. then i recalled that my friend Rakshit @ work is down with fever for the last 2 days.. i immediately called him and asked his condition.. he’s still suffering from fever.. and asked him to go for the swine flu examination and I am just crossing my fingers that he doesn’t have swine flu..

My husband immediately called another friend of our who visited us on 15th August from bangalore, if he’s fine.. luckily he’s well and have no such symptoms.. 🙂

After having a quick dinner.. we immediately rushed to the Lal Bahadur Shastri Hospital.. the staff told us that your reports came in today itself.. as you are fine now and this deadly virus does not last for more than 7 days… and there are no chances that I may have spread the virus at my workplace.. and Rakshit (the friend at work who is down with fever for last two days) had not got infected through me..

I am feeling better now after meeting the doctors.. but the question still lies.. what if I happen to meet anyone during the course of first week when I was on the urge of spreading virus.. what if this deadly disease may have spread the movie hall where I went for a movie last sunday.. what if anyone may get the infection from me on 14th August in a mall where I happen to go with my husband and a friend and all this because of the delay in getting the reports of the test..

Can’t we have a better infrastructure in place.. does it really take 15 days for the reports to come.. ?? Who is going to answer all these questions to me.. There has already been 48 casualities due to this deadly virus.. and 2539 people suffered from this virus.. and there are many more cases every day all because we do not have a good healthcare system in place.. I am feeling lucky at this time but am really really worried about many people whom I came in contact with last 15 days.. not knowing that I was tested postive for this deadly virus… I really wish that our authorities take a strick action towards this deadly virus.. and put a better healthcare system in place…


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I Miss..

=> Chatting with my mom till I fell asleep during nights.. and bothering her with my gossips even when she’s damn tired and wanted to sleep..

=> The ‘She’s My Girl’ look on my dad’s face whenever I did something great..

=> The fights with my bro… (I don’t understand why do we have to stop fighting after we get married.. shouldn’t it be a ‘must have’ for this relationship forever?!)…

=> Playing with my sweet little niece and nephews ‘Manas and Runjhun’.. (And of course scolding them for no reason :P.. )

=> My dad’s lap whenever I am tired (I just wonder at times.. did he really never get frustrated with all those tantrums of mine or is it just that they didn’t show)..

=> Meeting my friends whenever I wanted to..

=>  Crying whenever I wanted to (I guess that’s a part of growing up…)

=> Being the ‘pampered-tantrum throwing-spoilt brat’…

=> Those little surprises by Tuts. (He hardly does any of those now.. :P)..

=> My college life — every emotion – anger, fear, anxiety, joy, sadness, hurt, loneliness and still knowing that life couldn’t have been better.. And much more……


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Eight months of absolute bliss!!

I know this is the most cliche sentence I can say but still I’ll say it… It seems like yesterday that we got married… doesn’t feel like eight months by any stretch of imagination!!! And its so overwhelming to remember each of those special moments that we witnessed in this period… The SMS fight just before you reached the wedding venue, my first day at your place, the honeymoon and so many other trips, the fights, the disagreements and the warmth on solving those disagreements, understanding and knowing each other more and more everyday, the good, bad and ugly times…aah… i can go on and on and on…

Its unbelievable for me and for others who know me… to see that someone has tolerated me for so long… and that without many grins 🙂 I know how impossible I get at times… I also know how nasty I get at times but then again, I ove doing that also 😀

On a more serious note, I still believe that I couldn’t have been luckier… coz you are the best for me 🙂 I love you… 🙂 more than you will ever know… more than I can ever say… and though it seems like yesterday when we got married… I can’t imagine my life without you! You’re a sweetheart tuts! 🙂

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How it changed…

Good read..

Here I am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life…
How it changed from a maverick college life to strict professional life??

How tiny pocket money changed to good monthly paychecks ??
But then why it gives less happiness??

How a few local denim jeans changed to new branded wardrobe??
But then why there are less people to use them??

How a single plate of samosa changed to a full Pizza or burger??
But then why there is less hunger??

Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life…
How it changed….

How a small coffee shop changed to cafe coffee day??
But then why its feels like shop is far away??

How a limited prepaid card changed to postpaid package??
But then why there are less calls & more messages??

Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life..
How it changed??

How a general class journey changed to Flight journey??
But then why there are less vacations for enjoyment??

How a old assembled desktop changed to new branded laptop??
But then why there is less time to put it on??

How a small bunch of friends changed to office mate??
But then why we always feel lonely n miss those college frnz??
Here i am sitting in my office…
Thinking hard about life
How it changed….. How it changed……..


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On the Track..

Got to read the following excerpt from one of my favorite books “The Zahir” by Paulo Cohelo… and thought of sharing it at my blog.. and, here it goes..

“I went to a train station today and learned that the distance between railway tracks is always 143.5 centimeters or 4 feet 8.1/2 inches. Why this absurd measurement? I asked my girlfriend to find out and this is what she discovered. When they built the first train carriages, they used the same tools as they had for building horse-drawn carriages. And why that distance between the wheels on carriages? Because that was the width of the old roads along which the carriages had to travel. And who decided that roads should be that width? Well, suddenly, we are plunged back into the distant past. It was the Romans, the first great road-builders, who decided to make their roads that width. And why? Because there chariots were pulled by two horses, and when placed side by side, the horses they used at the time took up 143.5 cm.

So the distance between the tracks I saw today used by our state-of- the- art high-speed (French) trains, was determined by the Romans. When people went to the United States and started building railways there, it didn’t occur to them to change the width and so it stayed as it was. This even affected the building of space shuttles. American engineers thought the fuel tanks should be wider, but the tanks were built in Utah and had to be transported by train to the Space Center in Florida, and the tunnels couldn’t take anything wider. And so they had to accept the measurement that the Romans had decided as the ideal. But what has all this to do with marriage?

I paused. It has everything to do with marriage… At some point in history, someone turned up and said: when two people get married, they must stay frozen like that for the rest of their lives. You will move along side by side like two tracks, keeping always that same distance apart. Even if sometimes one of you needs to be a little further away or a little closer, that is against the rules. The rules say: be sensible, think of the future, think of your children.

You cant change, you must be like two railway tracks that remain the same distance apart all the way from their point of departure to their destination. The rules don’t allow for love to change, or to grow at the start and diminish halfway through – it is too dangerous. And so, after the enthusiasm of the first few years, they maintain the same distance, the same solidity, the same functional nature. Your purpose is to allow the train bearing the survival of the species to head off into the future: your children will only be happy if you stay just as you were – 143.5 cm. apart!!

If you are not happy with something that never changes, think of them, think of the children you brought into the world. Think of your neighbours. Show them that you are happy, eat roast beef on Sundays, watch television, help the community. Think of society: dress in such a way that everyone knows you are in perfect harmony Never glance to the side, someone might be watching you, and that could bring temptation, it could mean divorce, crisis, depression. Smile in all the photos. Put the photos in the living room, so that everyone can see them. ….. but never forget, these rules were established long ago and must be respected. Who established these rules? That doesn’t matter. Don’t question them, because they will always apply, even if you don’t agree with them.”

Well…to be honest…I don’t really want to agree with the writer here. Yes, the rules used to be those… till sometime back. But not anymore. With changing times, people are becoming sensible enough to think of themselves and their happiness before thinking of the ‘society’. That doesn’t mean we ignore the society completely…not here in India for sure… but things are definitely changing. We are moving towards more of a WIN-WIN situation.. Aren’t we?

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